Wednesday, 25 September 2019

25 Things I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self : Part 4

That's right folks! It's that time again where I share some wise tid-bits to my younger self again (but hopefully, these resonate with you too)!
The thing is, a lot of the time, I remember feeling 'down' or simply put, having a low emotional state because of unhappiness stemming from my inadequacy.
So let's remedy that today okay?

25 Things I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self

1) Set achievable goals - I cannot stress this enough. Even if you have big dreams, it's always a good approach to tackle it bit by bit. Seeing the ultimate goal at can get overwhelming, breaking it up converts it into small steps that you can work towards and not feel lost (or a total failure). I wish I had known this sooner, but experience taught me well.
2) A validation by others is not your point of existence! This is even more relevant today, and I'll jolly well continue to remember it. Why is it that you cannot be happy about the way you look, if 500 people did not 'like' your photo? You were happy to have dressed up, happy with that snapshot, and excited to share it on your feed, so be your own cheerleader and hoot for yourself! Same goes for any achievement, be it personal, emotional or academic. Be happy for yourself and try to stay away from the lure of gaining the approval of the masses.

25 Things I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self

3) Don't be afraid of being laughed at . Being afraid of ridicule limits you to unimaginable extents! So ask yourself, is it really sensible to cut back on new experiences simply because you think you'll mess up and people will laugh? Nobody is perfect at everything and you messed up plenty while learning to write, draw, walk, or control your bladder as a baby! I'm sure people laughed back then, but you learnt it anyway right?
4) Also, don't take yourself too seriously. You don't have to live a black and white life of perfection and failure. Life is infinite shades of grey! When you can't even laugh at yourself, it becomes painful when someone else does. When you laugh at yourself, you diffuse a negative situation and grow as a person, and overall develop a positive perspective about your flaws :)

5) Value the feedback you get, but only from the people you value. This is an important thing that I learnt in college. Not everyone knows you for the person you really are and are forming opinions based off of a chance conversation or even an eavesdropped one (without proper context). The thing is, each person is so unique in their thoughts that you cannot please them all, and trying to do so in order to make them happy, you'll end up being sad. Some people may not like you, and that's okay!

25 Things I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self

That's all for today! I'll drop by again with the last installment of this series, hope to see you soon!

xoxo
Smriti


Check out: 
Part I - HERE
Part II - HERE
Part III - HERE