Monday, 15 July 2019

25 Things I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self : Part 1

Hi everybody!


It was my birthday recently, and I feel overwhelmed to have reached the quarter mark, a silver jubilee of sorts if you will.

As with all birthdays that have come post mid-teens, this one too bore slight hues of melancholy. I no longer am over-enthusiastic about adding another year to my age, not because I fear to turn old, but because that +1 makes me reflect on my previous days and all the things I wish I had known then.
I get it, wisdom comes with experience, but I’ve always felt that wisdom also comes from delving within oneself. And with that thought, here I am, compiling a list of 25 things I wish I could tell my younger self. I hope this can serve as gentle reminders of the things that matter to me as I make my way towards 30, but as I put my thoughts down, I wish they can help you too, whatever be your age.

After all, it’s just a number, right?



I’ve broken down this post into parts, as it is a lot of food-for-thought, and much better digested in small doses


  • Be kind. To yourself, before others. It’s unrealistic to measure yourself by the standards set by others when you know that every person is unique. No shame for the fact that you need a calculator for 19x19 when you can spout the molecular dynamics of autacoids and what not. No inferiority for your rounded nose and jawline, it’s a perfect Cancerian moon face! You are what God has made you carry that simple truth in your heart with faith.
  • Which brings me to the subject of individuality. It’s easy to lose yourself in a herd mentality, but having the courage to think for yourself, form your own opinions, wear your own style is far more interesting than being a part of a clan. Don’t change yourself to fit in. The world has always been full of nay-sayers, choose to celebrate yourself anyway.
  • And speaking of nay-sayers, never be that person who pulls others down to get ahead. It’s alright to be competitive, healthy even, as it pushes you to perform to the best of your abilities. Put in your best efforts, put forth your best ideas, but if a peer has a genuinely better one acknowledge that with grace and step back. The world needs more people like that, and you can contribute to a more encouraging and positive society.
  • Do learn to say NO to things you don’t want to do, to company that only brings you down. Anything that becomes a source of negativity and anxiety in your life needs to be said no to. You owe yourself that. Don’t be scared of unpopularity, the freedom of choosing your own happiness is worth far more. And trust me, life is better when you can choose.
  • Unpopularity. Yes, we need to talk about that. You know those petty girls at school, who gossiped and poked fun at you behind your back? Well, it was happening behind your back for a reason- you were already ahead of them! So, will you give up the progress you’ve made just to sink to their level? Absolutely not. Getting vindictive will only cause self-damage in the long run and when you’re working towards a better you, let’s not add that to the recipe. The amount of energy you’re investing in worrying and crying can be put to better use! Meditate, exercise, and let go.

That's all I wish to say today, you're doing great so far and just need some nudges of guidance. I'm glad to have known you and seen you grow!

Lots of love,

Smriti